How To Change Your Negative Thinking

How would you say your usual thinking is? We refer to that voice that is in your head and that arises irrationally and automatically throughout your life.

If you’re reading this article on how to change your negative thinking, it’s because it’s becoming, or already is, a common problem.

However, you shouldn’t try to eliminate this kind of thinking all the time. When used well and viewed objectively,  negative thoughts give you signs of what to change  or what you need to work on harder.

If these ideas limit you, put these tricks into practice to change your negative thinking.

1. Take action on the negative thinking you are having

It will be impossible to try to change your negative thinking into good, pleasant, positive ideas. In fact, an absolutely favorable life would put you at risk in many ways.

Instead of focusing in vain on what’s not possible,  analyze the thoughts that are bothering you :

• What theme do they relate to?
• With what specific action could you calm this thought?

When you have clear answers to these two questions, you will know how to move forward. For example, your negative thinking may revolve around the idea that your relationship will end.

As you analyze what is happening, you may find that your husband is no longer talking to you, or is not interested in what is happening to you. In that case, you  can act and solve the problem.

2. Meditate

Are you trying to change your negative thinking focused on internal factors such as your personality or your physique? Many people have serious problems accepting who they are and various personal aspects.

In this case, in addition to working on the problem as in the previous point,  you must reconcile with yourself. It can be a complex process, but it’s always better to stick with the ideas that affect you so much.

Some thoughts that require this inner work are:

• “I’m not able to…”
• “I should be more beautiful”
• “I’m not smart enough”

If you feel that meditation is not enough for you, try psychological therapy. We cannot always deal with these problems alone.

3. Relate to positive people

Changing your negative thinking is a gradual process that is easier when you are with people who bring you good energy. There are people who actually wouldn’t have negative thoughts if they were with the right people.

Analyze the people you spend most of your time with. Remember that they define you to a great extent, and while you love them dearly, sometimes it’s best to back off a little.

For example, your ideas about not being good enough at your job might be derived from the fact that your mother always compares you to someone you know.

In this case, you compare yourself with people who have characteristics and a reality different from yours.

In this sense,  anyone who is toxic to their life should have limited access . Forget for a moment your intention to be a good or nice person: if it’s affecting you, step back.

We recommend that you read: Toxic family types and defining characteristics

4. Share responsibilities

Another way to change your negative thinking is to  stop taking on responsibilities that belong to others.

This is a very common problem for people who are generally responsible for their family or their work.

• For example, mothers who are always blaming themselves because their children only get bad grades, but don’t stop analyzing that their little one doesn’t pay attention to the teachers or does his homework.
• Of course, the mother has some degree of responsibility. However, the moment she imposes consequences on bad grades, the child will learn to act as she should and the mother can free herself from these ideas.

5. Stop acting like a victim

Do you complain all the time about what’s wrong because you think you deserve more? Well,  playing the victim makes it easier for negative thoughts to arise.

The next time they show up, ask yourself what you were waiting for and what you did to reach it. This point has a lot to do with the first one we mentioned.

When you fail to act or postpone your decision making, you are sabotaging your progress and your chances of getting where you want to go.

We understand that it’s very easy to be the victim. This way you protect yourself when things go wrong and you have a reason not to act.

But how long can this work? Is it really an asset to your life?

By limiting yourself to being a  victim , you’re putting control of your life on other factors,  and that’s never as rewarding as working for what you want.

Tell us now, what do you do to change your negative thinking? Have you ever thought about these options?